Too often we look far in search of expensive material things to give which in the end are either unwanted or untimely or simply unaffordable by us.
We ignore timeless free gifts of life like hugs, kisses, smiles, cherished family moments and just a few warm words shared human to human.
Of course to some people family is the most important thing in life. How about you, what is the most important thing in your life?
I have heard all that talk about differences in priorities. Are you the kind who is always thinking and talking about your priorities?
But how thorough have you examined your priorities or is it another word you use because it sounds trendy?
Do you ever take time to reflect about what really happens around you and how it all impacts your life; especially your social life?
Sure moments of affirmation of love from sibling to another, parent to child(children) and vice versa, extended relatives, friends, churchmates, schoolmates, workmates, intimate partners and all human to human connections.
Unfortunately, these significant moments which would have turned magical, pass us as we are busy pondering about non issues like; how cheap another girl’s dress was too short or another boy’s shirt was missing a button. Or what really is wrong with another person! Those are non issues yet not even a percentage of the total sum of useless things that we waste our precious time on.
I am an emotional person, not scared to express in words and gestures what I feel. To close friends and family, I am addicted, compelled by what and how I feel about them, to express in any form how I feel about them.
I never feel its too much because I want those people to know and understand that I do mean it when I say or indicate that I love them. I think that it helps to affirm to people how we feel about them when they are still alive. Maybe that is all they need to live a happier life and live longer. So just by opening your mouth and affirming what you feel for your parents, neighbours, friends and enemies, you could save their lives.
I therefore urge you to deliberately choose to make people especially those who matter to you the most happier and prolong their lives. It is however, unfortunate that many of us wait until we have to regret the chances we missed.
When we went to school especially secondary and university, we said love, sweetie, cutie, babz to almost every female member of our class or at least those who belonged to a certain circle. We all felt great in relationships with each other. It seemed like envy and jealousy never existed. We wanted each others best and we did encourage each other.
With social media now, it feels hilarious when a friend from the past gets in touch or their profile pops up on social media. We quickly want to get in touch and catch up. Second example; it is always a great feeling when I speak to my uncle Cyprian Mugasa and he says, “Take care. I love you”. Something my father was also found of when he lived.
I know that acquiring good habits is among the hardest things in life as compared to the bad ones. I have tried it many times when I tell people in my circle to tell others that they love them but they simply shy away and decline. The common feedback that I get is that they have never before told these people that they love them so it will be awkward.
Well, what is wrong with awkward? We all find ourselves in awkward situations all the time or don’t we?
Are we really human? If yes, then we must allow ourselves to feel awkward sometimes. Let our emotions flow freely and uninterrupted. Let us experiment with ourselves and see what really happens when what started as awkward repeats itself over a period of time.
Don’t you want to affect positively the lives of the people you love and care about? How far have you come by holding back?
Have you ever imagined how much better things would be if you were not holding back?
Love like other emotions is contegious. The more you give the more you get back and the bubble continues. I want you to imagine a first time mother. Holding all the other factors constant. Imagine that she planned this baby and she wants it more than life itself. She would do anything for it. How do you think it feels to be in that situation? That is love and most parents have it for their children. However, the world would be lucky if some children had just half of that for their parents. If this was a research I would definitely be interested in examining the cases of industrialised and non-industrialised worlds separately.
Have I said too much now?
If I have, then I hope you are saturated with the warmth of my intended meaning.
I want you to learn to say this short sentence more often.
Not that I don’t appreciate the way, the timing and frequency when you say it. But my concern is for all the times,
All the people you hold so close to your heart.
All the moments that would have turned magical and forever memorable.
Only if you said the magic words;
I love you.
The warmth and presence of another human, any human at all, will remain the greatest connection to the very end of life no matter the level of robotic evolution.