Just the other day I was speaking to an acquaintance. I am happy I did because the conversation inspired me to write this piece.
She asked me how my man was doing and I said as it was, alright.
She wondered when I would bring him to Uganda so that they could steal him!
I plainly asserted that my man couldn’t be stolen because he knew what he wanted and genuinely leaves no room for doubt.
But I suggested a joint acquaintance whom I knew could be stolen if she wanted a man for a gig.
His heart or wallet, I skipped the details.
Her response was a big, No-o-o.
And her reason was that he had a big belly.
Stomach men is a no go zone, she said.
Then I pointed to the fact that my man had a big belly too.
You want to know her response?
He has a belly, Oh my God! How did you end up with him?
You speak so highly of him. Then he must have a lot of money.
Truthfully, I laughed like an idiot, I couldn’t believe how shallow she was!
I wondered where to begin a long missed education.
But I had to start somewhere so I simply described what I wanted in a man: loving, kind, honest, funny, Intelligent, respectful, committed, working, with his feet on the ground and knows what he wants and the list could go on.
I laboured to explain that I am not for the cliche: tall, dark, handsome and to add, well-trained but if a man had no manners!
I mean, what good is a bunch of muscles if they aren’t wired to a brian?
An intended long term relationship must defy whimsical first sight attractions.
You must be kin to observe that which lies beneath the sparkling skin once the makeup is off.
I happen to know a sweet girl who fell upside down for a man she believed was the most futuristic she ever met and would ever meet only for him to turn her inside out when his absolute top secret wife and kids flew home from their other home in the USA.
Mr. futuristic confessed that the house she had been shown was just a guest wing of the main one. He openly told ‘the sweet girl’ that she had no right to set foot in his marital house so she didn’t have the whole picture. Imagine her shock!
I can draw countless scenarios but this text was not intended to exceed one page.
So my dear ladies, work, build yourselves and be the best women you could ever be. Forget the dependency mentality and attract dependable partners not parasites or users.
Catch you later.